Who am I

 I was 12 years old when my journey to discover ‘who I am’ really started.

“I am no longer going to be quiet and shy” I declared to my slightly bewildered family “because I keep missing out on all the fun!” 

And with that I rolled up my skirt, loosened my tie, and strutted off to school in my regulation-bashing wedges to see how differently life could be experienced as one of the ‘chatty’ crowd. 

I had declared in that moment that I was no longer a conformist. 

A rebel but for what cause? 

A yearning to be more authentically me.

It had started with owning how I wanted to be in the classroom, and has opened to become a mission to free others from the belief that we have to ‘be’ a certain way to be acceptable.

Have you been itching like me to feel comfortable in your own skin, and have the confidence to do your own thing, regardless of other people’s opinions? Do you sometimes need persuading that it’s our differences which make the difference, to celebrate rather than berate your uniqueness?

My daughter was born beautifully different. A strong bundle of energy with enquiring blue eyes, she looked quite the picture but boy did she pack a punch – literally! She was an ADHD ball of fury from the age of 2, and I was her target.

If the universe wanted to teach me about fear, failure and forgiveness, then I was on the fast-track. Such is the balance of life that these experiences also taught me about courage, self-belief and resilience. Growing myself as life grew me in all sorts of unexpected ways became my purpose, and in the end, my pleasure.

Roll forward a few decades and there aren’t many therapies I haven’t practiced or touched on. We all get to where we need to be, so I became the therapist we both needed; honing my magic wand to develop many of my own formulas and techniques along the way.

My daughter emerged as a first-class honours graduate, set free from the emotional baggage and mental frustrations which had haunted both her and us growing up. It’s impressive how the universe has a way of bringing together souls who need each other to fully develop. 

Here we are jumping out of a plane together for charity. Her idea of fun, whilst I had to give myself months of therapy to finally find the courage! 

So what are your aspirations?

What qualities are hidden inside of you which need bringing out?

Have you struggled to be yourself, find your purpose or realise your magic?

It’s our time now to follow our hearts, not our fears, to embrace all that we are.

Needlless to say, who I am and my developmental story is not just founded on parenting and therapy. No, long before that and continuing to this day, I have been in the more physical business of property. Starting a company at the tender age of 21 with my husband of now 30 years, we have been through feast and famine, so I’ve also learnt a thing or two about perseverance, differing perspectives and maintaining individuality within a partnership.

Determining how we want to live in a property is an important first step in its acquisition, as our homes are the container for the relationship we hold with ourselves and those with whom we live. I have designed many houses over the years, but have come to realise that homemaking is more about the foundations of our relationships than the placement of our furniture.

For every new move, we need to be willing to leave a stack of emotional baggage behind. 

And so it is that my home designing interweaves with my therapy and coaching.

Your own story will be an interweave.

What is it that you now want to focus on which I can help you bring to fruition?

As self-belief is the gold dust from which everything manifests, what is it costing you to not be the most confident version of yourself, in alignment with your true goals?

We are putting energy and intention out there into the world every moment of every day, so it’s important that our inner compass is always on course.