M - Motivation
Willpower only gets us so far for so long. Ultimately, we only flourish when we are inspired or internally driven. Inspiration arises from the heart and demands little effort. Drive arises from our instinct to pursue something for a greater purpose, for which we may have to overcome many fears and obstacles before realising our fulfilment. When we can’t be mobilised from within, we are most likely answering to an implanted ‘should’, often at odds with our personal values.
So find your ‘why’ in life and everything you do will become part of your passion and purpose!
Whether your ‘why’ is applied to health, relationships, or career, what drives or inspires us hinges on our personality type, our personal values and knowing what it is we really want out of life at the deepest level – whilst our minds create a wish-list, only our soul knows what will fulfil us.
Our deeper goals aren’t always obvious on the surface, which is why most New Year’s Resolutions don’t last. So if you want to be a self-empowered, heart-inspired, gut-led woman with a sense of purpose, then it all starts with awareness.
A - Awareness
Awareness is a state of consciousness which takes us beyond the limited perceptions of the mind. We can extend our awareness beyond our physical form.
When we are in greater awareness we are in a higher, calmer, more spacious state of being that allows us to witness ourselves. In witnessing, we realise that there is ‘something’, a consciousness, doing the watching. When we open into that consciousness beyond the body, the mind, and thankfully the emotions, everything changes.
Once we realise we are not our emotions, we can allow them to pass through us with less attachment to the stories they carry. We can start to notice our feelings in e-motion, ever-changing in relation to our thoughts. We become aware of our thoughts as opposed to lost in them.
In awareness there is space to question them. In awareness we recognise that the greatest distance between where we are now and realising our full potential, is the size and shape of our greatest fears. It is in awareness that we notice how our body responds instantaneously to our thoughts and emotions. We know now why our stomach is clenching, our shoulders are rising, or our frown lines deepening. We make the necessary connection between dis-ease in the mind, and disease in the body.
In awareness it becomes obvious how much our thinking affects our situation. We understand why Norman Vincent Peale preached “Change your thoughts and you change your world”.
It becomes evident that we need to extend our awareness beyond our current perception of ourselves to make any permanent change possible. With Emotional Alchemy we can discover a version of ourselves which is greater than our mind would have us believe. The mind does not know what lies beyond itself.
Emotional Alchemy helps us see that our limitations are a concept of the mind, and to feel our way into a new state of being. It is in doing so that we discover what lies within is pure gold.
G - Gold
We manifest what we feel we’re worth, so we need to turn our emotional lead into gold to embrace our true worth.
So much time and energy is spent trying to accrue money, prestige, love and simply ‘things’ on the outside, when truly all we are trying to affect is how we feel about ourselves on the inside.
The more direct route to happiness would be to fulfil our needs on the inside, and then allow the true nature of manifestation to fulfil them more in alignment with our purpose and values on the outside. We would become less attached to how everything ‘should’ arrive, and be more grateful for all that is.
When we don’t feel we are enough on the inside, no matter how much wealth we have on the outside, it will never be enough to fill that void. Find your worth within, and everything which extends from it will feel like a bonus.
One of our greatest treasures is our inner compass.
I - Inner Compass
We need to develop trust in our inner compass to navigate life. That is to trust our body wisdom through our gut instinct, intuition and heart’s calling rather than the ramifications of the mind.
We entertain a bewildering number of thoughts in a day, with the ones carrying an emotional signature remaining forefront. Whilst extremely capable, the mind’s primary job is to keep us safe so part of its programming is to catastrophise; bringing in fear and doubt as an emotional response to that.
Once our emotions are triggered the mind then looks in its memory bank for other stories, true or imagined, to match that emotional vibe. That’s how we get stuck in a loop of negative thinking, and emotional disturbance. Our biggest drive is so often to avoid the negative emotions we fear most, which counter-intuitively actually puts fear in the driving seat and our real goals and dreams as hopeful passengers. Leading a fear-led life we find ourselves on a hamster wheel of non-fulfilment.
Einstein recognised our genius lay in following our inner compass, our intuition rather than the rational mind, when he said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift,”
It’s time to reverse that power balance and restore our inner compass as our guiding force, before mind would have fear stunt our opportunities. Fear-driven action can become so natural to us we cease to recognise it as simply a pattern of behaviour or even consider there could be a better way to navigate life.
What if we turned fear on its head, and asked ourselves “what would love do?” and be drawn by that instead.
If you could instinctively trust your inner guidance, how much less fraught would your decision making be?”
Like the need to develop our brains from birth, developing our inner compass is fundamental to becoming the leader in our own lives.
When we can trust our inner compass we feel confident.
C - Confidence
Our innate confidence is either built on or deflated by the company we keep, the beliefs we hold, and the stories we tell ourselves. Does your inner critic brainwash you into believing you’re simply not good enough, when actually we are designed to learn through our mistakes?
It’s not so much that confidence needs to be created, as we are born to stride out and courageously experiment, but more the beliefs we take on that have us fear we’re not worthy, that need to be dispelled. We need to peel back the layers of emotional trauma to reveal how brightly we would otherwise shine.
Confidence is a feeling which when expanded can encompass our whole aura. We then simply ‘are’ confident – a state of being it’s hard to knock. The trick lies in expanding our awareness from our ‘little self’ into awareness of our ‘greater self’ on the level of the super-conscious, which is limitless in its potential. And then embodying that spirit.
What are the knock on effects of increased confidence and self worth?
Well, “When we change the way we perceive ourselves, our capabilities change”, states Marianne Williamson. Emotional Alchemy transforms how we feel about ourselves, and thus what we are capable of.
If you had the confidence, what would you be doing right now?
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Whatever path you choose, remember we are the creator of our own lives - that’s the magic!